Stop overthinking! its not good for me:)

Do I Think Too Much? YES!!!! Well not much these days...i find myself not over analysing things as i used to. i realised that things happen they way they are meant to happen n instead of wallowing in thought and trying to make things perfect, i should just do my best in whatever situation. and if doesnt work out the way i want it to, accept it, feel the pain ...then move on. there are bigger things to worry about....yeah yeah i still do think la at times cant help myself LOL...

Was reading this article by Dr Susan Nolen and she says that the more we actually worry the further we get from actually solving the problem and we fail to see that sometimes its just part of normal life! Like she said in the article, I guess i used to define myself in terms of my relationships and live my life for my man... which is utter nonsense when i think bout it now..loving the guy should not come at the expense of loving myself...haih what love does to you....

She said that even when we are in an unequal relationship or when you both want different things instead of trying to end it, overthinkers are more likely to analyse the situation and their feelings about it! or try to solve the situation...I agree, but whats the harm in trying la if u love the person, but then again it might get u no where..

And dont make excuses for anyone...if they want to, they can make em themselves like the all famous one, "but, he's got so much potential"...Dr Nolen says when women fall in love we not only fall in love with the man but their 'potential'...but the reality is that some people just dont evolve into the best they can be..so its unfair to the guy if i think he will evolve for me...if he doesnt want to evolve dont force him too..

Lower my expectations..like after so long i realised that sometimes people are not like me and i can not expect them to be...i guess its easier la when it comes to fitting expectations! like duh:)and yes Dont overdramatise everything...but im such a drama queen!!! getting demoted to the princess status soon.hopefully..*grin*

I actually started questioning my confidence when the rship with "THE ONE" ended..but hey i shouldnt sell my self short and now im a different person, n if i didnt have to go thru the break up, i would not be experiencing the change im experiencing now and I definitely wont be ready for the next one who might be "IT"...i guess every break up teaches me more about what i want and how i should get it and hopefully it brings me closer to meeting my perfect match:)