SOULMATES - Do they exist?

i was reading a blog of a friend of mine that he shares with his gfren and there was one on soulmates..it got me thinking again...ive always asked myself this "is there someone out there who is only meant for you?"...wat r the chances of actually meeting him or her? if ur reading this...tell me wat u think...

supposedly the Chinese believe that "God made us in pairs...... something that goes along the line of God paired us by tying our ankles together using some sort of red string that is only visible to immortals. Then He sends us down to earth leaving us with a quest to find our other half. When we do succeed, the red string tying the both of you & your partner, can be seen again.

i did some reading online and it seems the concept of soulmates arose from Greek mythology. Supposedly, our ancestors once had 2 heads, 4 arms. They did something to offend some God so that God punished them by splitting them down the middle, resulting in the creation of humans. So as a punishment, we are condemned to spend our lives searching for the other half, our soulmates.

Another weird site actually had a mathematical equation for "soulmate ratio", which is like a cost benefit ratio


Soulmate Ratio = Total Love Benefit / Total Love Cost


"Your soulmate is the person who will maximize your soulmate ratio and vice versa. If another person exists that has the ability to give you a higher soulmate ratio than the person you are with, then the person you are with is not your soulmate." hmm must get me a Love Calculator:)




I feel that Soul mates doesnt necessarily mean the person has to be ur lover or spouse. It can be in any kind of relationship, which do not always include romantic love. Frens can be soul mates...best frens better still...
We tend to think of our soul mate as The One who is there for us and to make us feel complete. A soulmate for me i guess can even be someone who is a total opposite of u but can read ur mind and soul..Someone who balances the Yin and the Yang i guess..some may have their freaky moments...some dont...but i guess as long as the person is able to tap into ur soul, understand ur needs, read ur body language, n give it all to u...then may be she or he is ur Soulmate...how would u know for sure if he or she was ur soul mate? check for red string? i dont think so:) i wish i knew man...

So what if u dont meet ur soulmate? for me, as long as he is closest to it id be thankful....i guess when u do meet someone who is kinda near perfect...dont question too much...enjoy it...let urself slip into it...cos u never know she or he may be your soulmate!!!

for me....i dunno whether i'll ever meet him..or may be i have already but just didnt know it...sigh

If I had the Money!!!

im so in love with this outfit...casual yet chic..my guy fren said i need to be 5'8" to wear it...monkey la he



this dress is sweet n simple...im not into over the top elaborate designs so this seems like a good choice. lovin the heels!!!



ok yes i knoe my boobs r too big to hide in that dress but im loving it...yes my boobs n the dress..wow wat a combo:)



im not so big on yellow but this dress is so sweet...a bit too girly for me but its just plain gorgeous...



this wedding gown is so simple, good for catholic wedding cos it aint too revealing but the design n the unique work on it is marvellous dont u reckon? i may not wear this dress though..but all in all its lovely..though i would get a better model...why the hell is she hunching for? sheesh!

My Baby Bro is Gone

went to KLIA to send my baby cousin off last nite...he would be in Manchester by now...poor baby...cant imagine he left...miss him already...so so much!!! i really thought he was very excited until he whispered to me n Ta that wish he wasnt goin...matters of the heart:(

andy was being notty but i bet he will miss timmy in due time...uncle was emotional as usual...aunty was stronger than expected...but like i told her, he is a good kid!! he will manage...i guess my aunty n uncle raised very good kids with principles...proud of the 2 brats! but he is a monkey la...tellin everyone, his frens n aunty n uncle that i wanna corrupt him:) obviously with my great acting skills i acted innocent. i mean cmon la he is going to UK la for crying out loud..beer is bloody cheap..so i told him to go clubbing n drink like crazy...pot if its with responsible ppl la...but study hard too...there must be a balance....

cos i dont want him looking back n regreting he didnt do this or that cos of certain promises he made to certain ppl...i know i will never forget my uni life...its been great...the downs were really down but there were more ups n im thankful for that:)

well he will be back soon unless he plans to do his masters..he is such a darling...he n his bro...love them...i love the fact that after all these years we r still their Chechi's and they look up to us...its nice being a big sis!!! n he is not ashamed to say that me n Ta are the 2 gals she loves the most and hugged us even in fornt of his frens...thats so sweet...his fren is cool..fun ppl la...

i feel kinda special cos he only confided in me bout her..anyway i really hope one day he gets to experience wat i have experienced...

hope he has an even better life experience than me..yeah n bout making his single room a room for two, i really hope he just gets a pet:) dah la bloody UK gals love "chocolate"...haih some more he is so cute n a joker..they will fall in love with him plus he is so grunge..rock music..long hair..awesome personality....sigh

miss u timmy boy!!! i hope he comes back or stays there till i have enough money to visit...

like u said "janji rock"...peace

My Gals

finally after so so long she sent me the pics...yay!!! yeah n the porno looking ones..didnt know there were that many!!! damn....and for the hundredth time im no pornstar n i wasnt coming on to nobody...i guess they were jealous cos im sexy hehe..thank gawd they dont read this if not all hell will break lose and the comments will be abundant...n ill never hear the end of it!

loved this the most...miss camera woman wasnt in this one though sorry

STRIKE A POSE!!!!!



i miss PD..the trip with the gals was awesome..though our room was haunted...it was a nice experience and till today we talk bout it without fail...even the other day when we met i got whacked cos apparently I made them aware of "IT"s presence...well sharing is caring wink wink....

im feeling mixed emotions...they started work yesterday all except one of them who has travelled across the ocean to return to my roots it seems....complicated story that one....but at least they filled me in on wat was happening...darlings i tell u!

im happy for em but was kinda sad for me...but im not dwelling on it..i guess it happened for a reason...most prob cos God wanted me to learn some patience, a skill i lack:) its a good thing too at least before i start work i can learn to drive again...yohoo gonna get my car in a week yay...its not brand new cos my sis is giving me her old kancil as she is buyin a new car...so i have to practice..just have to find volunteers who are willing to endanger their lives n drive with me....may be can bribe em with alcohol...that will sure work!!! but it only will work on the guys..who are darlings too mind u.. but imagine if i get posted to sabah or swk...then i gotta to leave Jean Pier behind sniff sniff...

starting work late also has its perks...i can take another vacation before i surrender myself to my work..but dunno la...not confirmed yet..but hey i hope i do get to go somewhere at least!!!

the 5 monkeys sure cant get of work but i bet we will have the routine meet up to bitch...ah yes our fav pastime...bitchin bout almost everything..n then shopping ..at least window shopping is a must:) and when its time to go home i miss them already...

its nice to know that in all the chaos and arguments we have we all love each other too bits..like duh the twins get all emo n teary when we leave or when they hear our problems and all...monkeys la the two of em..then u have the one thats scolds u, n one who supports u and the one that advises u...we r a weird bunch!!!

was just talkin to one of em and she made my day in a way...she said she doesnt know anyone who takes friendship seriously, appreciates and loves her friends more dearly than me!!!

now thats a first...but what she said was true , that it is my strongest quality but also is my weakest....

i dunno really know what to say to that....i just love my friends!!!

Stop overthinking! its not good for me:)

Do I Think Too Much? YES!!!! Well not much these days...i find myself not over analysing things as i used to. i realised that things happen they way they are meant to happen n instead of wallowing in thought and trying to make things perfect, i should just do my best in whatever situation. and if doesnt work out the way i want it to, accept it, feel the pain ...then move on. there are bigger things to worry about....yeah yeah i still do think la at times cant help myself LOL...

Was reading this article by Dr Susan Nolen and she says that the more we actually worry the further we get from actually solving the problem and we fail to see that sometimes its just part of normal life! Like she said in the article, I guess i used to define myself in terms of my relationships and live my life for my man... which is utter nonsense when i think bout it now..loving the guy should not come at the expense of loving myself...haih what love does to you....

She said that even when we are in an unequal relationship or when you both want different things instead of trying to end it, overthinkers are more likely to analyse the situation and their feelings about it! or try to solve the situation...I agree, but whats the harm in trying la if u love the person, but then again it might get u no where..

And dont make excuses for anyone...if they want to, they can make em themselves like the all famous one, "but, he's got so much potential"...Dr Nolen says when women fall in love we not only fall in love with the man but their 'potential'...but the reality is that some people just dont evolve into the best they can be..so its unfair to the guy if i think he will evolve for me...if he doesnt want to evolve dont force him too..

Lower my expectations..like after so long i realised that sometimes people are not like me and i can not expect them to be...i guess its easier la when it comes to fitting expectations! like duh:)and yes Dont overdramatise everything...but im such a drama queen!!! getting demoted to the princess status soon.hopefully..*grin*

I actually started questioning my confidence when the rship with "THE ONE" ended..but hey i shouldnt sell my self short and now im a different person, n if i didnt have to go thru the break up, i would not be experiencing the change im experiencing now and I definitely wont be ready for the next one who might be "IT"...i guess every break up teaches me more about what i want and how i should get it and hopefully it brings me closer to meeting my perfect match:)